How to Become a Total Babe Magnet

I’m kind of a babe magnet 😉

This is me, being a babe magnet.

There are times when I walk into a crowded bar and bump into a babe. I gently grab her hand, we apologize at the same time, laugh, and our eyes linger. Recognizing each other's power and grace. We meet again in the bathroom. Talk about zodiac signs and how we will never trust our heart with an Aries again.

It’s an art,

an act of resistance

a meeting of souls.

The babes flock to me, and it's about time I share my wisdom. The first thing you need to know is...

Babes empower babes, they just do.

Have you ever heard of Elle Woods? 

How about Eleanor Roosevelt? Did you know she held press conferences exclusively for female reporters, empowering other women to advance in journalism while providing them with valuable access to the news? Many women attended these meetings, and many had to sit on the floor because there were no seats left. This is the kind of feminine empowerment energy we have been craving. As much as we need to have seats at the table where important decisions are being made, we also need to be in rooms with other powerful women creating the change we seek, even if we are all sitting on the ground… in a circle… holding hands…. 

It’s magic. 

Did you know Wyoming refused to join the United States unless its women were allowed the right to vote? They said via telegram: “We will remain out of the union for a hundred years rather than come in without the women.” This isn’t just white women either. All women have had the right to vote in Wyoming since 1869. Now, THAT’s the kind of energy I’m looking for. That is the kind of energy that will spark a revolution.

To be honest, babes can be intimidating. Trust me, I know. They are so beautiful and usually so put together. It can be hard to approach them and make new connections. The truth is, the only thing you need to do is be yourself, but since I’m verbose, here are my golden tips to becoming a babe magnet:

1. Do your Research

Babes love to bring that big brain energy into conversations. A great way to connect is to share fun facts, historical movements, or demonstrate your political awareness. I'm not talking TikTok trends or Fox News. I'm talking information with substance you can sink your teeth into. Powerful women are critical thinkers, and we thrive in intellectual environments. Read books by influential female authors. Watch movies directed by talented female directors. Create a playlist with all the best female power anthems, and you will be going to Karaoke with some bad babes in no time. 

2. Learn to Listen

Empathetic listening is crucial for forming meaningful connections with powerful women. They don’t need your judgment, your advice, or side eye. They just want to be themselves, just like everyone else. Avoid competing for speaking time. Focus on actually listening to what she’s saying. If you are dying to talk, try asking follow-up questions or practicing curiosity. I can’t tell you how many times powerful women have had to hold their ground because people find it fun to challenge them. Challenge yourself, and be more empathetic. Empathetic listeners maintain strong eye contact, validate emotions, avoid interruption, and pay attention to nonverbal cues. Listening is an art, and babes love a good listener. 

3. Include Her

A lot of the time, powerful women feel excluded from cliques and circles. Don’t take it personally if she can’t make plans or doesn’t respond to your texts right away. She has a lot of things on her plate. We all do, and that's why it's so hard to make adult friendships anyway. The most powerful babes have mastered detaching from codependency. Deep down, though, they are still a little girl who wants to be invited to play in the sandbox. The invite alone is likely to deepen the relationship and create a foundation of trust and understanding. If you are in a group setting and notice a powerful babe looking down and feeling awkward, that could be your cue to make a connection and practice some empathetic listening. 

4. Learn about the Female Gaze 

Powerful babes love it when you let your authentic self shine through your wardrobe and general aesthetic. To be honest, I wear tinsel in my hair for the ladies. They love it. I can’t tell you how many times women approach me and say, “Do you have sparkle in your hair?” and I say “Yes” with a hair flip, and then... instant friendship. That's honestly how I've made half of my new female friends lately. The female gaze also appreciates clothing that allows for free movement and comfort. How many times have you complimented a woman’s dress and she exclaims, “It has pockets!” The female gaze also celebrates diversity and all body types. The more we tap into this collective power, the more likely we will become total babe magnets. 

So tell me, what are your best tips for being a babe magnet?  

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